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My fiance and I have a great sex life. We make love on average about 4 times a week often more. He is so shy and rarely approaches me for it but when I come onto him he really opens up and its amazing. We are so open in bed and I love to talk dirty to him - he sometimes does it too but admits that he gets very shy and clams up. We watch porn together too. I don't get it. If he would only come onto me and take me to bed i'd just love it. I know that he is totally turned on by me as he tells me and I am attractive - i'm tall, size 8 and long curly hair, everything that he loves in a woman, I wear sexy undies too. What else can I try to get him to run after me and take me to bed. Please advise guys??

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I'm not a guy, but I can guarantee you - he prefers YOU doing the chase! There are just some men who are laid back and the 'turn on' to them is the female chase. There is nothing wrong with that, but based on the information you provided, it seems he is most comfortable with YOU taking this lead. You are not 'hearing him"...you say he ADMITS he is shy about taking the lead. Listen to him. He 'ain't gonna change that much'. You guys really need to talk about this openly and honestly.

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I'm 32 and used to be the same way.... the more you let him know how and what you like the easier it will be for him to act out what you want! for instance I'm sure if you got naked and bent over the counter in the kitchen he's likely to hve you there! Report It

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you got to help him get rid of his shyness first, then the rest would follow

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The first thing he needs to do is stop watching Porn that is probably why he is shy to ask you to have sex with him

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I'm not a guy but I had a similar issue right after I got married. I addressed the issue to him, I asked if he just wasn't "into" coming on first or he feels insecure about how I'll react. He never knew that I wanted him to come onto me first, so after I talked to him, now it gets kinda difficult when I'm tired and don't want to hurt his feelings... it worked for me to talk to him about it.

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he's just the way he is. he wont change

sorry

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It may sound a bit too easy, but let him know. Tell him how much it would turn you on if he came on to you, and ask if he wants to please you first for a change. He's just scared that he'll get cockblocked..ur not in the mood...etc. Guys ALWAYS are in the mood.

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Some men are just that way! Sounds to me like you are doing all the right things. Maybe he doesn't start it b/c you don't give him a chance to. Tell him this is something that you really wish he would do and how much it would turn you on. If that doesn't work don't initiate sex at all. Eventually he will have to if he wants to get laid. Good luck to ya!

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First of all, you have one lucky man.

To answer your question, you are going to have to tell your man exactly what you want and even walk him though it a few times. It will seem silly and it will not have the desired affect while you are "training" him but guys have a hard time learning new behaviors. Give him time and don't think that hints are going to get through. Good luck!

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just put something sexy on and don't start anything, he will get the point.

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stop watch porn and starve him of sex then he will ask for it.

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Many couples get separated or divorced because the one doesn't fulfill the others needs (like your sexual need). Because of movies and media we have this picture in mind that a guy should just know when we need something, like something or don't like certain things like the couples in days of our lives "just knows". In real live things doesn't work that way. How will your partner know what you need or want if you don't tell him? That is why communication is very important in a relationship. We communicate our needs and if your partner knows you need or want something, he'll do his best to fulfill that need because he loves you and wants the best for you!

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You fell in love with him because of the man he is; do not try and change him. To try to change him would be a big mistake.