Can you help me to not be jealous of appearances?

I hate to ask this question, I really don't like that I react with envy and would like to stop. I am pretty good looking, I dress nicely, but not overtly sexy. I have a friend who never leaves home at any time without looking ridiculously sexy: makeup, hair, SHORT skirts. This doesn't always leave me jealous with some folks, as they have a friendly attitude, they balance the great look with other types of humility. This one is friendly-ish, but is very provocative and is always making sure she's being checked out. She rarely offers compliments, only says "Oh, I have an "X" like that at home". I hate to get green with envy, and honestly I wouldn't want to be engaged every day with such a sexy outward appearance. Yet, it irritates me just the same. Luckily, I think I hide it well, but it gets me annoyed inside. Help me lose this stupid reaction.

Can you help me to not be jealous of appearances?

Look at the person in the mirror. If you are happy with your appearance, then maybe you could find a way to be happy for people who are happy with their own appearance.

There is always someone who looks better, so don't exasperate yourself with trying to compete. You are a beautiful person (inside) regardless of the appearance to others.

Be happy with yourself.

Can you help me to not be jealous of appearances?

Well, imagine if you looked like someone else. Then you wouldn't be the individual you are. You are a very unique person and someone in this world sees you as the most beautiful woman in the world. Not out of love, but because you are their type. I wouldn't disount your own beauty . . hell, you're probably 100 times better lookin' than me. (grin)

Can you help me to not be jealous of appearances?

Its not stupid. But think about it. You go out simple and she is dressed up, she may get hit on more, but look at whose hitting on her.They are dogs that only want one thing.When a guy hits on you, Im sure you appear sexier because its obvious you are more secure about yourself!She has to get dressed up cause she is compensating for something else, personality, intelligence, something! So dont worry but it is normal to get a little envious. But trust me when all that sexiness fades away shell have nothing.Looks dont last forever.

Can you help me to not be jealous of appearances?

Don't worry, no matter how sexy/beautiful/amazing looking a woman is there's some man out there who is sick of her s**t.

Can you help me to not be jealous of appearances?

Are you saying that YOU are jealous of another girl/woman who has no self-esteem, tries to dress sexy, because she doesn't feel she has anything else gong for her, and makes a fool of herself with those that are KNOW that what you see, is not what is going on within.

Lets look ahead, say ten years. This person is married to a man that didn'[t get to really know her, but went by her "sexy" appearance. Either she keeps dressing the same way, or she goes in the opposite direction, because now she has a man. Do you think that it would be a loving, caring, happy relationship?

Lets look ahead at you, in say ten years. You have stopped being jealous, because you realize now, that how she dresses is not bringing her relationships that are good and true. You dress well, are pretty good looking but you have been working on your self-esteem and now feel really good about yourself. You are married to a man who realizes that inward beauty is what counts, and you are happy and content.

Of course, this is hypothetical, but I think you get the idea.

This girl has NOTHING GOOD going for her. And her future life, I do not feel, is going to be a very happy one.

Get strength in yourself, and if I were you I would, gently but slowly, walk away from this "friend" , because she really is not a friend to you. She is in love with her appearance.

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ADDED NOTE:- I personally, do not feel that because a person is" accademically accomplished "and "very smart," that she has "something going on inside". I personally know of two people who, although they have those qualities, still have low esteem, doesn't like herself, isn't happy with herself and are always trying to improve on their looks, but are never satisfied, with how they look.

The two women, from the outside look strong, brainy and good looking but on the inside, they are not so strong, doesn't think that they are brainy, and always want to improve on their looks.

A strong academic background does not make, not always, a happy person inside.