My man has a thing about me wearing my hair down %26amp; wearing little sexy clothing around the house. Not that he would be pissed if I did not, but he prefers it. Now I comply w/ it b/c he is my man %26amp; it would not kill me 2 please him. Not 2 say that I never wore it b4 him, I did, but not all the time. Now I told him that I dont want him 2 cut his goatee. Its look really sexy %26amp; has the grey in it as well. (he is 39, I am 32). Now 2 of the 3 incidents w/ his goatee, he did out of spite. He was upset w/ me %26amp; just so happen 2 cut it 2 LOW. Almost invisible. He always has an excuse/reason 4 cutting it. Now this last time, he cut it ALL off except 4 the mustache. Now I had 2 do a double take when I saw him. Mind you, he looks good %26amp; younger. But I want the facial hair %26amp; I feel if I can comply w/ u, u should comply w/ me, right? SO when I said something 2 him about it, he laughed me off %26amp; that pissed me off. B/c I feel as though, he is not taken me as serious as he wants me 2 take him.
Am I wrong for this? But its the third time and now he's laughing at me.?
Childish.
Am I wrong for this? But its the third time and now he's laughing at me.?
yeaaahhh. Um.....what?
Am I wrong for this? But its the third time and now he's laughing at me.?
too much to read
but I finally read it an damn, you are in your 30's and this is the kind of problems you have???? LIke the first person said, childish.
Am I wrong for this? But its the third time and now he's laughing at me.?
take your stand and proove your point to him. Dont wear the clothes he wants you too till his hair grows back to the way you want it, in fact, change into a hoodie and sweats at home :) he is taking in as a joke and you are serious about it, but he is a man,he dont get it. Do your thing, and make him realize things from your point.
Am I wrong for this? But its the third time and now he's laughing at me.?
It's his face.. he should be able to do whatever he wants to with it. It's your body... you should wear whatever you feel like on that day. Same for hair. You two people are focusing on each other for all the wrong reasons.
Am I wrong for this? But its the third time and now he's laughing at me.?
If you like the goatee, express to him why you like it. Tell him it makes him look sexy, or whatever it does for you. You know, stroke his ego a little. Then he will think twice about cutting it low next time.
Don't stop wearing the sexy clothes. If he likes it wear it.
Casually while talking, just discuss compromise. Tell him how you sacrifice to please him in wearing things he like. He should do the same. . If you speak calmly and express how you feel, I promise there will be a difference.
Am I wrong for this? But its the third time and now he's laughing at me.?
Hmm.......I must say that you've got yourself a pretty good man considering your main problem with him is him cutting off his goatee. Most problems I read about are concerning a cheating, lying, unemployed bum of a boyfriend/husband. I understand that you feel he should respect your wishes as you do his. But consider that you both choose to compromise. When we compromise we aren't forced or controlled in order to conform to eachothers wishes but rather we choose to conform. By having choice we allow for eachothers feelings to be taken into consideration without one or the other feeling unheard. Now when we expect a spouse to conform to our wishes we are trying to control them, especially when it comes to something as petty as this. Nobody wants to be controlled or feel owned by their spouse. He probably took your feelings into consideration but maybe he thought or hoped you'd think he was just as sexy without it. Just like you would hope that even with your hair up and wearing sweat pants and a tee shirt he still would think you're sexy and desirable. He is laughing at you because he is surprised you're so serious about his goatee. He probably never realized you didn't give him choice. Do you feel you have the choice to dress sexy for him? How would you feel if he got this upset with you if you didn't dress sexy. Wouldn't you feel a little upset that you have to look a certain way for him rather than just being yourself? You know that dressing sexy is your choice, you're not forced but rather requested. Maybe if he would have realized that you weren't telling him how you feel about keeping the goatee, but more or less telling him he must keep the goatee, he wouldn't have shaved it off. So I would suggest that you communicate your feelings to him clearly as he should you. Also, I would suggest choosing your battles wisely. There will be plenty of issues in the future worthy of your energy in fighting. But to stress your relationship out over something so small really suggests to me that you have too much time on your hands to think. I say this because it seems as if you don't have too many serious problems if you're concentrating on something that really should have no affect on your relationship. If you choose to battle over every issue that arises, this relationship won't last long. Not to mention the stress and heartache you will be causing yourself. Communication is and always will be key to a successful marriage/relationship, so tell him how you feel without using anger. I do envy that you can fret over such a simple problem. Good Luck %26amp; God Bless!
Am I wrong for this? But its the third time and now he's laughing at me.?
DUmp him. He is childish and stupid.
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