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"I am a female in a male dominated office. Recently a new member of staff joined us. She is very sexy and always dresses beautifully, she always has her hair and nails perfect and legs that I would kill for! The guys are always flirting with her.

As the only 2 females in the department we have got quite close and are good friends. She confessed to me that in fact she was born male and has been living full time as a woman for 4 years although she is still esentially male (down below). I was really suprised but respect her for her decission and the courage it has take to come this far.

The problem is that one of the guys I am friendly with is going on a date with her. I know for a fact that she has not told him her little secrect. I have told her to tell him but she says she always gets a guy to fall in love before she tells him. I don't know what to do, I don't what to go behind her back but I don't want either of them to get hurt

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Honestly, I wouldn't say anything. It's not your place or business... She will have to be open and honest with him about it and deal with the consquences of her actions. Good luck to her to try to pull that one off... Who knows she might go on one date with him and then never go on another date with him. I would say keep her secret and be a good friend to her, as again it's her business to tell people, not yours. Good luck! :)

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Thank you for giving me best answer and I'm glad this isn't your problem. Take care! :) Report It

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Just sit back and enjoy the show, it's none of your business

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I would stay out of it. They may be friends, but this is none of your business.

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Dont say anything... And if she always makes men fall in love before she tells them, one time its going to backfire and "it" will get hurt, and i dont mean emotionally. I would say something to her before i told your friend the guy

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I would mind my own business. It is up to the two of them to decide if they go ahead or not

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none of your business. its her date between him and "her" not a threesome. u have no right to reveal her secret and get involved. not only will ppl think ur nosy but they will think u dont respect their privacy. STAY OUT OF IT TO AVOID ANY DRAMA!

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i have to agree with stacy sit back and dont get involved

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Transsexuals have different ways and times when they tell their partner. It really isn't the place of others to out them.

It sounds as if she has dealt with this situation before and knows how to gage the reactions of her companions.

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because when you say this than you are the "evil person" who don楹搕 keep a secret...and that is a good feeling...believe me..

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As one, leave her secret to herself

You could only get her hurt and in trouble by forcing her out of the closet. She will tell in the appropriate time, do not worry.

You only stand to lose by outing her

anyone who believes she is a "she" does not understand the seriousness of this condition.

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she knows what she's doing, you should stay out of it.

you're honored to have this person come close to you and trust you with a potentially dangerous secret (you never know which one of the okes in the office is homophobic in disguise - these people can cause a lot of trouble for both of you).

think of it as you would a more common situation. if she was a woman by birth, going on the date, but only you knew that she was married, would you get involved?

it's difficult to stay out of it, i know, but respect her space. rather be there for support, should the guy she's dating not take to the whole idea too well...

good luck

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LOL@ sitting back to enjoy the show. True. That's her job to tell him.

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Certainly it is not your turf to begin with. Apparently, some guys will have to learn the hard way ( or in this case the soft way when he finds out the real deal). In the mean time, you can enjoy being who you are!

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This is a very complicated situation and I'm very happy it's not me in your shoes. My first gut answer would be to stay out of it and let it take it's course on it's own.

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Let your friend tell the other person her secret. Its her secret to tell not yours. She entrusted you with something important to her, I don't think you should destroy her trust in you. Let them work it out for themselves.

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Well it is a bad situation. But I would let it play out for it self.

Those kind of thing have a happy ending or they don't. You are concern about the level of risk that is involve and I know

it weighs heavy on your mind. Sometime it can't always be up to you to fix what hasn't been broken.

good luck

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The transexual woman has made a hard choice to live as she believes she is inside. I know this from my own experience as a TS. Obviously she will have to come to terms with her date at some point but she had best not wait too long as any relationship is based on honesty.

I believe that this is up to her to tell in her own way and at her own time. Still, since she took you into her confidence on this you could talk it over with her.

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You should really talk to your office friend. Most of my ts friends kind of live on another planet when it comes to being accepted in the real world. I can see where she's coming from considering my own struggle with gender, BUT she needs to be honest with the dude. Maybe it's true that her friends and family are accepting, but truthfully a large portion of the population is still weirded out by trans folk. Not telling a date about your former gender is deceptive and very dangerous. I wouldn't call it a little secret. Consider the metal anguish that may befall her date. Many ts women are killed each year. Motives for the murders include deception.

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They're only going on a date; IF they go on to have a relationship, and IF that relationship becomes intimate, she'll tell him when she feels it's appropriate.

Until then, it's no-one else's business; stay out of it..